20 Jun 2005
I have been spending my time lately catching imaginary frogs, hiding from dragons, and parading around the table playing a flute. I'm getting in touch with my inner child, something therapists have urged adults to do for years . My inspiration comes from spending time with my two year old grandson Clayton. I have discovered the small distractions he provides have become pleasurable opportunities that allow me to relax and recharge. Clayton has reminded me of the importance of play. Far from a worrisome sign of immaturity or irresponsibility, the urge to play is a vital and healthy one, and its not just limited to children. "That's just how it should be,"says Lenore Terr, M.D, clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. She writes in her book Beyond Love and Work: Why Adults Need to Play (Scrobner,1999) "Whether it's bowling or Barbie collecting, play is an effective antidote to harried adult lives," says Terr, because it allows us to completely lose ourselves in the moment. A productive distraction from worries, play offers some very adult advantages, she adds: "people who preserve their sense of fun are better equipped to solve problems, think creatively and manage stress." Most people believe that play is unproductive, and therefore not important. Many of us have prioritized lists at home and at work. When we run out of time, we cut the fun out, and do the "productive stuff." We often feel guilty or bad if we play hooky or a game of tennis or chess. Perhaps this is because we equate play with "feeling "(happy joyous feeling) that traditionally is seen as less important than "thinking." New research on play contradicts this cultural dismissal of play by emphasizing the importance of feelings and the necessity of feeling safe and relaxed in order to think clearly and productively. One of my fondest childhood memories was secretly observing my parents playing. My sister and I were awakened from a nap by a noise outside. We stood on my bed and peaked out the window. What we witnessed that day left quite an impression on me, The novelty of snow in Seattle had possessed my ordinarily sensible parents. Mommy and Daddy were laughing and throwing snowballs as they created a surprise snowman for us. They were unmistakably feeling free, happy, and relaxed. Since play is a fundamental factor in good mental and physical health, you can justify having it on your to-do-list. Think of play as a much needed mini-vacation and don't cross it off until it's done. Reminisce about your own childhood memories and find some mindless, fun activity that doesn't have a goal. Try Charades, host a costume party, or dust off the frisbee. Be inspired by children, notice the joy in their face as they splash in a puddle, blow bubbles, or zoom over a bump on their bike. It's hard to resist the temptation, but before long you too may find yourself in touch with your inner child as you play with your imaginary frog. Lori Chandler is a registered yoga teacher who teaches yoga at CWU and throughout Kittitas County.
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